6 TIFERET OF CUPS
Essence: Personal growth within the relationship. We learn to balance our absorption in and nurturing of a relationship with our need to withdraw. Still committed to the relationship, we take ourselves back to nurture our own needs, desires and interests as well.
The Tiferet (six) of Cups represents compassion, empathy, true understanding. The soul-mates are joined, but in a vital relationship where both the dark and light sides of the partners are revealed to each other and themselves.
Though it is not without conflict, it is a dance where the partners have their differences and yet accept themselves and each other. Snow White turns out to be a lousy housekeeper without her retinue of dwarves. Prince Charming never picks up his clothes or puts the toilet seat down. She likes parties and travel while he needs quiet and time to be alone. Yet their love allows each to fully grow and be themselves. They share a love deeper than each their differences and flaws.
The Tiferet of Cups combines passion for each other and self-love. Communication and compassion are joined. Both parties are committed and dedicated to keeping the relationship true, vital and alive. Their recognition and respect for their differences and different needs, increases their love and enriches them both.
The Tiferet of Cups represents a time when we may look at our mutual creation that is a relationship and appreciate its goodness.
This card refers to a way of being in all our relationships. The relationship with a beloved is only used as an example, since the Tiferet of Cups can refer to any or all of our important relationships. In an individual reading it may refer to the relationship between parent and child, between friends, or even a business partnership.
When the Tiferet of Cups is reversed, it is a reminder that life can always cause even the most secure and established relationships to change course. It addresses the importance of staying current in our awareness of each other. Tiferet reversed may be trying to warn us against becoming complacent.
We need to ask ourselves “Am I seeing my partner as they truly are or am I projecting onto them my own reality?”
“Am I really willing to listen to what they are trying to communicate?”
“Am I willing to ask a hard question?”
“Can I speak my truth?”
Conflict is important for growth. If we only see our own
distorted projection of our partner, even if it’s an attractive picture, we put our selves and our relationship in danger. All that can help is vigilance so that we can see through the projections to the reality.